I want your opinion. I mean, I think I know which option I want to go with but I want to hear your thoughts before I make a final decision.
Originally I thought I would give the Bridesmaids a lot of freedom to pick their own dress. I had in mind that I would designate a color like “blue” but that I would let them pick the shade of blue they liked and any style of dress that they wanted.
I suppose I really did have a vision in mind when it came to the blue sand styles everyone would select. As my Maid of Honor (OK…henceforth MOH. I have seen that abbreviation around a lot and it does get long to spell out EVERY time) pointed out that could go really wrong though. She had a really good point. In my quest to accommodate my bridesmaids I might end up with blues that nowhere match my vision or an array of styles ranging from 80s punk to romantic to ball gown. I thought about how it could realistically turn out given my very minimal lack of direction and the new vision didn’t look pretty. I imagine that the pictures could turn out some random, mismatched mess with no continuity or theme and THAT is certainly not what I imagine.
When my MOH came to visit last week we took a trip to David’s Bridal. While we were there we also looked at the Bridesmaid’s dresses available and had a serious discussion about me possibly being too accommodating. David’s Bridal is cool because they have a poster with about 50 styles of dresses ranging in price from $80 to $150 and then a poster with about 50 colors. You can order any style dress in any of the colors.
After the initial discussion my second thought was that I would pick three styles of dresses from the poster and then pick three colors. I would then allow my Bridesmaid’s the freedom to mix and match the color and style of their choosing. Again, I had a vision of what this would turn out like.
Then came the second discussion: What if it didn’t turn out like I envisioned because there was still too much lack of direction? The second conversation arrived at something along the lines of picking two or three styles of dresses as previously planned but only selecting ONE color or picking two and having two of the bridesmaids wear one color and two wear the other color (I am assuming I will have four at this point and that the MOH will be in a different color blue than either of the Bridesmaid’s colors to stand out).
I am not sold on the last idea though because, to me, it is not aligned with my original spirit of letting the bridesmaids pick a dress that they may wear again. I don’t want to be the bride that forces her Bridesmaid’s to pay for some hideous dress that they would otherwise not be caught in daylight in. However it was brought up that no matter how much freedom I allow with the dress still may not be truly liked or ever get worn again. Also, the girls I am selecting for my Bridesmaid’s like me and want to make me happy so they might willingly wear whatever ugly dress I put them in (kidding).
So my questions to you are this:
- Which of the three ideas would you like best as a Bridesmaid?
- As a Bride, which of these ideas do you think you would go with?
- These dresses range from $80 to $150. I am leaning towards styles between the $80 and $130 range. These styles will, at least in my mind, lean towards the universally flattering and classic. What do you think about the price? Reasonable? I don’t know what typical Bridesmaid’s dresses cost.
- Any other thoughts or ideas you may have based on experience or personal preferences?
Like I said, I know which idea I am leaning towards but your input will help me make a decision.